Information on teenage dating violence
a self-paced tutorial on abuse for clergy, spiritual leaders and teachers.
Experienced professionals familiar with the dynamics of sexual violence understand that victims have individual responses to trauma that are often counterintuitive to public expectations.In order to overcome this type of abuse, it’s important to start recognizing the signs and eventually learn to trust yourself again.According to author and psychoanalyst Robin Stern, Ph.Once an abusive partner has broken down the victim’s ability to trust their own perceptions, the victim is more likely to stay in the abusive relationship.There are a variety of gaslighting techniques that an abusive partner might use: Withholding: the abusive partner pretends not to understand or refuses to listen. “I don’t want to hear this again,” or “You’re trying to confuse me.” Countering: the abusive partner questions the victim’s memory of events, even when the victim remembers them accurately. “You’re wrong, you never remember things correctly.” Blocking/Diverting: the abusive partner changes the subject and/or questions the victim’s thoughts. “Is that another crazy idea you got from [friend/family member]?
” or “You’re imagining things.” Trivializing: the abusive partner makes the victim’s needs or feelings seem unimportant. “You’re going to get angry over a little thing like that?